Enough: A Poem of Truth by Danielle Farrow

Picture taken by: JC Gellidon via Unsplash. An independent photographer and a film maker based in Manila, Philippines.  Instagram: jcgellidon

Picture taken by: JC Gellidon via Unsplash. An independent photographer and a film maker based in Manila, Philippines. Instagram: jcgellidon

I want to talk about expectations. 

What people expect us to be.

What we expect ourselves to be.

Where do they come from these heavy crosses we are forced to bear?

These heavy crosses we choose to bear. Without ever giving our permission.

The good girl. The bad girl. The lover. The fighter.

The clever one. The clown. The bitch and the saint.

Whatever we are, it is never enough.

Never enough. 

Never good enough. 

Or pretty enough. 

Or smart enough. 

Or perfect. 

Enough.

Enough with the words spat from the mouths of those that profess to love us.

Enough with the images plastered across screens that tell us if we are this and that, we’ll be happy.

The institutions designed to educate, that sell us a lie and tell us to buy,

Into the timeshare of life where we pay and then play but not too much because work HAS to be done. 

Be busy little girl. Be confident but coy. Be sexy but not slutty. Be clever but not cleverer than him. 

And God forbid you have a voice or you want to have a choice or a fire in your belly that gets crushed under the boot of those that profess to love us. 

Enough. 

Just enough. 

Of all of the shit we have ever been given that didn’t even belong to us in the beginning.

Enough. 

Enough. 

Enough. 

By Danielle Farrow.

Danielle Farrow is a wife, mother and recovering ‘good girl’ from Widnes, UK. Danielle runs various wellbeing services through her heart-led organisation Astara Therapies and Training, including a range of holistic therapies, workshops, meditation classes and bespoke wellbeing sessions for organisations.You can find Danielle on Instagram , Facebook and through her website www.astara.org.uk

Danielle’s #hopesforhumanity are

“I hope that one day all people can break free of the pressures of societal expectations of what we should be. I hope we move towards a more nurturing, home grown education system that supports individual children and nurtures their natural and innate talents. I hope education about the self and breaking cycles of generational violence, abuse and neglect are widespread. I hope overall we begin to look after ourselves and the people around us because if we all did that the world would be a much better place. I hope we begin to respect where we live. I hope we look up more and recognise what we can do to look after our little corner of the world and the people within it.”

Danielle, 31, U.K , Astara Therapies & Training